Educate, Inspire, Motivate, And Love : Dear Ladies, Stop Letting A Number on A Scale Define You! Skinny Isn't Always Attractive, But Healthy, Fit, and Strong is Admirable!

I think being fit and strong is beautiful and admirable. I hear so many people, mostly women say they wish they were skinny or if only they could get down to a certain weight. They focus way too much on a number on a scale. Stop letting a number on a scale define you. You are so much more than that. Too many people focus too much on that number and wanting to be skinny instead of being more healthy, fit, and strong.

I think people should stop obsessing over being thin or a specific weight and just focus on getting healthier, in better shape, and stronger. Thin isn't always attractive. Being so skinny you look like a sickly walking skeleton or stick person and your face is sunken in, is not always a good look. In my opinion it is never good look. There is nothing wrong with having some meat on your bones, having some curves and some muscles. Instead of saying, "I want/wish I were skinny" or I want/wish I were thinner." Why not say, "I want to be healthier, or stronger, or in better shape."

I go to the fan pages of female athletes with muscles and I see rude comments posted on their pages/photos people insulting their body/muscles. People posts rude comments saying these women look like men, or look disgusting and gross. I recently seen some very mean comments on a Nicole Wilkins picture on her fan page on facebook. People were posting really mean things about her. Someone posted that if she put a paper bag over her head you wouldn't even know she was a woman. That was so awful and the person who posted it was an old out of shape woman... at least I assume it was a woman. Most the rude comments came from out of shape, frumpy, obese looking people and yet they insult someone for putting effort into working out and taking care of their body. I thought the woman that made the paper bag comment had the audacity to insult Nicole Wilkins body saying she looked like a man. I wanted to say some rude things about that Carol woman that made the comment but I will refrain from doing so.

I understand people have their own perspective and perception of beauty but even if you don't find someone to be appealing to your perception of beauty that doesn't mean you should personally go to their own fan pages/photos and post nasty comments about their looks. Those people see those comments. She reads those comments and messages on her fan page, she interacts with her fans on there. She is really nice and posts motivational stuff. She never goes to those people's pages/photos and insults their looks. Nicole Wilkins, Toni West, and Sarah Backmen and other female athletes with muscles have posted in the past that they have been very hurt by some of the very mean and insensitive insults that some people have posted on their pages and pictures. They have all said even if someone's physique/appearance was not their cup of tea, they wouldn't personally go to their page or photos and directly insult them like these people do to them. Don't go to their pages if you don't like them or how they look. Instead of insulting them directly on their pages like that just stop going to their pages all together. Those fan pages/pictures are for their fans, not for their haters to insult them.

If you want to voice your own opinion of not liking muscular women or a certain look then do it on your own page or a blog. But, don't go out of your way posting it directly on those people's pages/photos when they have done nothing to you personally and never went to your page or photos insulting you or your looks.

I think those that put in-shape and muscular women down are just jealous and are insecure about their own looks/body in some way. I think they must feel intimated by someone that actually puts effort and determination into something when they themselves don't/haven't.

Ladies don't be afraid to actually have some meat on your bones. Ladies don't be afraid of muscles. Some people really need to stop thinking muscles are only for men. Muscles aren't just for men anymore!!!! Strong is beautiful on women just as well as men. So go lift something ladies!!! Don't be afraid to be strong and don't listen to the haters. Let them motivate you instead of hindering your efforts.

Remember their insults against your looks are probably because they are insecure about their own looks. They feel they are lacking something and feel miserable about their own looks so they want to try to make you feel bad about yours too. There isn't one set definition of beauty so don't let them try to define you by their definition of beauty. Define your own beauty!

Misery loves company. So don't let them have the satisfaction of letting their insults make you feel as miserable as they are. Don't let them or their insults stop you from doing something with your life that they themselves are probably too lazy to do.

Pictures below are of some women with muscles that I admire and respect and I think they make muscles on women look beautiful! I think these women still look very feminine with muscles.